Saturday, January 24, 2009

Everything's Gonna be Allright.....

Wow......it's been almost 4 weeks since I have written, yet it seems like decades ago! Why does time seem to pass so quickly in some instances, and yet in other instances, just seems to crawl slowly? I suppose it depends on the situation and the person involved. Not writing has not sat well with me, and so once again, it has come to my attention that indeed I am a writer.....a list maker.....a note taker.....anything having to do with pen and paper (or here a keyboard) must have my name on it! So very much has happened in these short past 4 weeks that it's hard to figure out how to fill you in. Firstly, I hope you all had a wonderful holiday with family and friends and that the New Year brings nothing but health and happiness for all. The beginning of a New Year always represents a "new" beginning. Of course we all know that each new day is really a new beginning, but the written calender is a concrete reminder when we actually have to turn the page and start writing a brand new number on the checks we write! Most people tend to make "resolutions"....ways they feel they can better themselves in this brand new year. Stop smoking.....lose weight.....exercise......those I guess being the most common, yet I've never been one to make New Year's resolutions. I've always kinda thought they were a set up for failure actually. People tend to be really tuned in to the resolutions for the first few weeks, and then the ole' behaviors kick back in and the next thing you know....oooops.....there goes my resolutions. Then you start to beat yourself up for not being able to keep the promises you made to yourself and that in turn, leads to self defeating talk, negative emotions, low self esteem etc etc. Truthfully, I can't be bothered with all that nonsense. If it works for you I say....hooray...go for it, but in my experience it usually doesn't turn out that way. I belong to the "one day at a time club" (no, I'm not in recovery....unless of course you want to count cancer), but it only makes sense to me to literally take one day at a time for your goal setting frame of mind. If you look long term....well, that's a long time. But one day is only one day....24 hours...so the time frame is pretty manageable in my book to set and meet any goal. I don't even like it when I make my "to-do" list for the day and don't cross off all that's on my list! But how could I really? Some tasks, goals, whatever you want to call them, perhaps took longer than I thought they would. Maybe if it was a cleaning task I set for myself, I ran out of (fill in the blank) and couldn't finish it. Life is not concrete. Life is an ebb and flow. Life changes literally from minute to minute, so how can you possibly tie yourself up into something not leaving room for any deviations? So that's why I'm not a resolution person but I AM a big goal person......setting goals is awesome......completing them even awesome-er (spell check that why don't cha LOL) but don't beat yourself up if your goal is not met TODAY. Remember.....EVERY DAY is a new beginning....not just January 1st.